HEARTSTRINGS - Written by Mark Anthony Hall Illustrated by Woodrow (Woody) W. Hall, Jr.

     

Q: Mr. Hall, I am in a relationship with a very gorgeous woman. She used to be a model and gets complimented quite a bit about her elegance and beauty. The problem that I have is that when we are ready to make love, she wants the lights off and the room completely dark before she takes off her clothes. I have seen her naked and to me she has a wonderful and fit body. Although I have accepted this situation, I do get frustrated sometimes and she closes down when I want to talk about it. What can I do?

A: Dear Sir, in my opinion, it is obvious that you believe your woman is both beautiful and desirous. Based on what you have written I believe she knows how you feel and think about her. However, because you feel and think a certain way about a person, doesn’t mean they feel and think that way about themselves. I would like to encourage you to always “respect” her rights as a human being, and back off of any posture that might seem as a demand to the behavior she is exhibiting.

We human beings have many doors in our brains that lead to many places. We as private individuals only open those doors when we want to. So if you push, she may never let you in. On the other hand, if you show kindness, understanding, love and patience, she just may surprise you and expose more of her world to you both mentally and physically. I know that you would love to see her body with the lights on, but after all, she is giving her love to you, so don’t make “Doing it in the dark” such a bad thing. Enjoy your life and your lady. Matter of fact; be sure to thank her every time she choses to love you.

Q:  Mark Anthony, I married a wonderful man three months ago. He has been the perfect step-dad to my daughter and our future looks so bright. He is back in school and should graduate in about two years. OK, that’s the good news. I just found out that I am pregnant. Before we got married, we agreed that we didn’t want children until he finished school. My “in-laws” didn’t want us to get married and now I am scared to death to tell my husband or anyone else about my pregnancy. What should I do?

A: Plans are just that, plans. We make plans and with sincerity and integrity we try to execute them. The first thing you should do is talk to your husband and tell him you are with child. Unity between the two main principals is so vital. The rest of the people, in-laws or whomever will just have to adjust to whatever the two of you decide. Don’t let this pregnancy be your private secret because it will weigh you down with a burden you should not carry alone. I know you are still a “newly-wed” but if you start out with secrets, deceits and purposeful mis-direction towards your spouse, the future looks bad for the relationship, child or not. Based on your description, your husband sounds like a great guy. Give him the chance to be even greater. As always, in the case of any pregnancy, my wishes are for a healthy mother and a healthy baby. I also hope that the unity that is wished for in any marriage be manifested in yours. God bless.

 Q:  Mark Anthony Hall, I am a forty-six year old woman. Over the years, I have been in a few relationships; I was deeply and intimately involved in each of them. Because the relationships were not successful, I feel like I gave and lost a little of myself each time. Right now I am feeling romantically empty. I would like to hear your feedback on my situation.

A: First let me thank you for your honesty. What you have gone through is experienced by men and women alike. Some people have been with so many other people intimately and sexually, that in their later years of living they feel romantically and intimately spent, yet, the need for human companionship still exist.

Any time we are involved with someone on a romantically emotional level, the giving of self to that person is quite common and natural. However, if someone goes through that cycle time and time again, with negative growth in the relationship, the impact can be devastating to our souls and our psyches.

Mature growth can sometimes be a very painful thing. Even after counseling and solid advice, the affairs of the heart can be difficult to actually control and keep in step with the good instruction we may have received.  Let me say plainly, we all get empty some times. After so many years in my own life, I can relate and empathize with the emptiness you are now feeling. Yet, I have some very good news for you! Life is about getting up and learning from your mistakes. Between my own family, friends, beloved church members and God himself, I know what it is like to be revived. Hallelujah!

My prayer for you as you continue to live is to seek out real people who have suffered, endured and conquered the emptiness you are now feeling. Look around and with prayer (talking to God) you will be embolden to step forth and get the help that you need. I would love to hear back from you in the future.

Sincerely - Mark Anthony Hall

“Mark Anthony Hall is possibly The Most Romantic Man in the World!"

“I was introduced to Mark Anthony Hall seven years ago by my best friend and instantly embraced his loving words. I have never had a man talk to me so kind and gentle. I have met him several times since then and he continues to inspire me to find my own romantic voice. Mark Anthony Hall has been a blessing to me over the years. I have kept his inspirational and passionate writings close to my heart.  Daisy E.

 

"A Collection of Secret Romantic Memos & Private Love Letters - Straight From The Heart!"
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Have you every wondered why cards and personally written letters are so popular? The reason is very simple, people love to receive them. Nothing says, “I care” more than the thought that someone took the time and energy to communicate to them. When we are loved, cards and letters should be expected, especially when we have special events and birthdays. However, the simple “I Love You” card or letter goes a long way. We love to read soft and delicate words more than ever, when the goodwill expressed is directed toward us. The whole ambiance of a surprise wrapped in an envelope, raises our romantic heartbeats several tender pumps per minute every time. One thing that we love about written letters and notes, is that we get to role play what the writer is saying. We get to hear the person speaking to us in the tones and nuances we want to hear, over and over. Cards, letters and memos can be better than phone calls and direct communications. In reality, they serve as surrogates and ambassadors, presenting our messages in the most positive light possible. Sometimes kindness read is better than kindness spoken. The receiver of our notes get to take their time and digest the dear and tasty words that have been sent to them.How many times have we sent a card and proudly answered the phone when our lover called to thank us? Communication breeds communication and when the communication is good, the moments of life are better. 

Romantic Bedtime Manners - An EBook! Only $4.50

Going to bed with the one you love, means just that, she can always be your lady,

not some conjured up fantasy freak that you have in your mind. I believe that love

making will be better, when we treat each other with respect, courtesy and a set of

protocol like manners in bed (I have tried the other way and wound up sleeping on

the couch). Just think, if I try and my true love tries, so many variables can be

created, though from couple to couple the results will be varied. Everyday won’t be

perfect, but, I’m hoping that as you read this pulsating, passionate, pajama-popping

and poetic-prose presentation, you will enjoy and relish the commonality of our

human experience. In bed, these experiences can range from fun, to the most

serious of issues.Tonight, I have picked out my favorite silky-blue pajamas. I’m wearing the expensive cologne she

gave me for my birthday. I have lit every candle in the house. No lights, no phones and no TV. Even now as    I

write, I feel my voice getting softer and lower.

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      About Mark Anthony Hall

He has been labeled by women and men world-wide as possibly “The Most Romantic Man In The World!” Mark Anthony Hall offers life changing introductions into the world of love and romance, for individuals who have trouble with romantic expression and behavior; he’s been doing it for over 25 years, reaching men and women everywhere.

He’s the author of and publisher of 47 books of poetry, prose, which ranges over the whole spectrum of love, including relationships, family or love for people who we don’t like to love. “Naked & Bare (Raw Truth for The Mistakes Men Make)” and “Romantic Bedtime Manners For Couples” are just a few of his book titles. Mark Anthony Hall’s support for romantic expression is legendary, and he is indeed “the voice all men need to hear to help repair their damaged romantic communication.” Mark Anthony Hall writes weekly romantic and heartfelt nick-nacks and sayings, a bi-weekly blog (blog.markanthonyromance.com) and even offers romantic comic strips to stir and tickle the affairs of the heart.

Mark Anthony Hall grew up in Chicago, IL and was strongly influenced by the Christian standards of his parents. Psalms and Song of Solomon quickly became his favorite two books, thus launching him into the world of reading, writing and expressing romantic love.

Mark Anthony Hall created the “Entrepreneurship Education Through Poetry” and the “Children Reading Children” programs. He received the “Pinnacle Award” from the Gillette Company and Being Single Magazine for his outstanding community service.

He is a past Board Director for the “Blue Skies for Library Kids” where he oversaw reading and math tutoring, hobby shops for youth and teen parenting classes. He has taught Junior Achievement and served as the community liaison for the Chicago Association for Retarded Citizens. He served as a consultant at “The Parenting Institute” of Mt. Sinai Hospital. He taught Journal Development, Parenting Styles, Sibling Rivalry and “How to Raise Your Child in a Multi-Cultural Society.” He has been the Education Minister for two large congregations, has directed several “Single’s” ministries and teaches bible classes on various levels.

In 2010 he added “The Mark Anthony Hall Jewelry Collection” and is set to release “one of a kind” Exquisite Mirrored Romantic Love Vases. His two most recent books, “Human Solitaire – The Dirty, Dangerous & Deadly Game of Internet Dating” and “Secret Romantic Memos & Private Love Letters – Straight From the Heart” are sure to soon reach the status of “Best Sellers.” He is also the composer of “We Love America - The Anthem of The New Millennium!”

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